May 9, 2011

Parsonage Life

Posted in Uncategorized at 11:51 pm by a care in the world

Once you reach the age of 27 or 28, where I come from, you expect to be headed towards stability. Maybe you’re married, maybe you’ve been in a job field for a few years, maybe you’ve paid off some student debt… or maybe you’ve got a little sister who was settled into her own house with her husband at age 22 🙂

One thing that living in NYC has taught me is that everyone does things in their own time, so you’re never later or earlier than you should be at any particular life stage. Most days I appreciate that, and some days I get anxious. When I was younger, I used to joke that I would never marry a military man, because I never wanted to be told where I should move or what my life should look like. Then, I went and married a man who would become a Methodist minister.

Since then I’ve learned a lot about the Methodist church (and I still have a lot to learn). I think the basic idea is that every few years, the Methodist conference that we’re part of will send us to a different church in a different town or city. We are part of the Western North Carolina conference, so at least we won’t have far to go each move, but it will be kind of a nomadic lifestyle. Many churches provide parsonages for their ministers, so we have a place to live. We found out tonight that our new parsonage is fully furnished. As you can imagine, by age 28, my husband and I have, separately and together, collected various pieces of furniture for our apartment(s). Where does all that furniture go? What about for our next move, and the next? Do we sell our furniture? What if we get an appointment that doesn’t have a parsonage? Are we back at square one?

Most importantly, how do I make peace with all of the things that are out of my control in this life?


  1. Kim K. said,

    Hi Dorsett,
    I know that we haven’t spoken since the Lovett days, but I just wanted to let you know how much I connected to what you said in this post. While I am finishing up med school this year at 27 and look forward to 5 years of residency, sometimes I get impatient when I see others who already have homes, established careers, and children at my age. Thanks for the reminder that each of us are on our own timeline and path.

    Good luck in NC!
    Kim K.

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